you can't always get what you want...

No reply from dad2six.

But 3, count 'em, THREE messages from kawasaki. (Who, I now notice, has spelling issues...)
And, on top of that, he sends me the "sends you flowers" flirt.

I am bummed.

Isn't that always the way, though? The ones you like aren't always the ones you actually end up getting any attention from.

here's someone I would like to meet:

39 years old
5' 9" (175 cm) tall
Average
Dark Brown Hair
Brown Eyes
Divorced
Occupation: Restaurant/Food Service
Some college
6 Children/ 0 at home
Mission: Switzerland
Regularly Attends Church
Temple Worthy
Greeting from dad2six:
I feel my membership on here is something akin to saying: "I'm LDS. I'm Single. I will date, if I can find one. I guess." Said in my best Red Green voice of course. (Bonus points if you know who Red Green is. And Mega Bonus points if you have ever watched.) I DO know who Red Green is, AND I watch the show!
Speaking of voices. I do plenty. My kids are always asking me to do Donald Duck, Goofy, Mickey Mouse, the Swedish Chef, or some accent or another. I used to do Donald Duck in grade school - I never thought I'd meet anyone else who could do that!
I'm firmly planted in gospel soil. My testimony of the Savior and His Gospel is the foundation of all that I do. YES, finally!

will he be interested in me? (and yes, he's serously cute)
(my comments are in green and blue)

...and bonappetit is back

He never did commit to a date with me in the first or second round of emails. So please tell me why he's trying again? Am I really so hard to communicate with? Have I become his "fallback" for when nobody else seems interested?

(On a "maybe I'm a little sensitive" note: he signs his email "Love, Cliff". Um, excuse me? Seriously, I still haven't met you in person, I don't know you that well. You don't love me.)

And, oh, yikes, I just noticed this: he spelled my name wrong. Folks, it's not that hard. Really should be easy for anyone in the LDS church, or anyone into cooking with herbs. (obviously doesn't love me if he doesn't care to look back to prior emails to see how to spell my name)

Kawasaki doesn't know why he's drawn to me...

but, he says now that he's settled again, (those of us who have been divorced know about that period, looking for a new normal, feeling awkward no matter what) he's starting to attend church again. (Just to clarify, I didn't ever stop going to church during either divorce. I went back to my parents ward for a while, partly because I did feel awkward about showing up in my ward without my husband (the 1st one), wondering what others might think, and partly because I had reliable help for juggling nursing twins through the 3 long hours of church. Most of which time, I think I mainly caught opening and closing prayers of all the meetings in between visits to the nursing mothers lounge. But I was there. More to the point, my testimony did not waiver during that time, it grew quite a bit. This gospel was one of the solid things that kept me sane through both divorces.)
He really does seem like a nice enough guy. My office-mate (a happily married woman) says I should give him a chance.
The thing is, I've been the one "leaned on" for spiritual support when my significant other was uncertain, and I don't like it. I cannot be someones' reason for joining, reactivating, or otherwise getting religion. It tends not to stick if you don't do it for yourself. I don't mind being there to remind him he does have a testimony, and he does love the gospel, in those moments of doubt that sometimes push their way in. But I refuse to be his reason for seeking for the truth. If he hasn't felt the need to seek for it before now (he's 40), something is missing.
Oh, and in case you're wondering, yes, his screen name does indicate a fondness for motorcycles. He's an ex-marine, currently working in real estate. (doesn't sound like a regular income, steady job type of guy...)

kawasaki status not a mistake

I decided to give him the benefit of the doubt and ask if his "seldom attends church" status was for real, and explained that it matters to me. his answer:

"its correct at the moment but I have nothing against it! but thanks anyway! good luck!"

one must wonder just why, if that's how he feels, he wanted the attention of someone who does attend regularly?

another engagement!

Last night, my older sister, who had just returned from a little vacation, flashed her newly bejeweled left hand under my nose. I didn't get the full details (she was tired and ready to head for home before she collapsed - you know how traveling can wear you out), but apparently he proposed at Disneyland. How sweet!
Congrats, big sis!

brief update

You may have been wondering if I'm hiding something, or ignoring the singles scene, or what. For a while there, I couldn't access the singles site from work, and since my boys dominate the computer at home, which in any case is not my favorite thing (the computer itself is great, the connection is very reliable, but the monitor is a dinosaur and the seating/desk is less than ideal), that meant that I opted to ignore it rather than go out of my way just to see who "kawasaki" is. But that's fixed now, so no more excuses.
"kawasaki" has indeed been persistently sending flirts and messages anyway, but alas, his profile, while otherwise not objectionable in any way that matters, states that he "seldom attends church". This may be an over site on his part, but then again, it might not.
Do I need to be more specific in my own profile? I truly have no interest in a man who doesn't have a testimony and a driving need to be a part of this church. Is it not sufficient that I mention my own conviction/commitment? Do I have to spell it out in order to stop receiving attention from the less than committed? hmm. If the less-than's can't see what I mean without my spelling it out, maybe they are also a bit dim otherwise as well, and best ignored?