brief update

You may have been wondering if I'm hiding something, or ignoring the singles scene, or what. For a while there, I couldn't access the singles site from work, and since my boys dominate the computer at home, which in any case is not my favorite thing (the computer itself is great, the connection is very reliable, but the monitor is a dinosaur and the seating/desk is less than ideal), that meant that I opted to ignore it rather than go out of my way just to see who "kawasaki" is. But that's fixed now, so no more excuses.
"kawasaki" has indeed been persistently sending flirts and messages anyway, but alas, his profile, while otherwise not objectionable in any way that matters, states that he "seldom attends church". This may be an over site on his part, but then again, it might not.
Do I need to be more specific in my own profile? I truly have no interest in a man who doesn't have a testimony and a driving need to be a part of this church. Is it not sufficient that I mention my own conviction/commitment? Do I have to spell it out in order to stop receiving attention from the less than committed? hmm. If the less-than's can't see what I mean without my spelling it out, maybe they are also a bit dim otherwise as well, and best ignored?

Engaged!

My baby sister (okay, she's 27, so it's not like she's super young, but she is the baby of the family) called me this morning to tell me he FINALLY asked her to marry him last night!

Isn't it romantic?!?

Congrats, sis!

forgot to mention

bonappetit/Mr Persistent sent me the cute little "hug" flirt last week.

Umm, excuse me, but we haven't met, we haven't yet arranged to meet, we've only emailed 2-3 times so far. In other words, I don't know you, sir, so why would you think it was okay to "hug" me?

updates (such as they are)

still no dates...but here is what's been happening:

"bonappetit" (aka Mr Persistent) finally answered my email, a month later. whatever! my reply to that was less than enthusiastic (can you blame me?). He asked for my phone number so that we could arrange a date. Am I the only single gal out there following the rules? "do not give out your personal number. Always call from a pay phone or a phone with Caller ID blocking until there is absolute trust" (quoted from LDSSingles online dating safety guide). So, no, he can't have my number. Sure, I'm a big girl, I could make my own decisions on that front, I don't have to follow all the rules. Thing is, I don't want a bunch of guys I haven't met having my phone number. I've watched other single friends deal with unwanted attention from guys they thought were okay until they actually met them. No thanks. If he really wants to date me, we'll just have to agree to meet somewhere. If he doesn't care for that option, fine. (am I picky or what?)
(Remember, he's old enough to be my dad, if only barely, so I'm not over-excited about going out with him anyway.)

"ERL", the one whose profile said he "frequently" attended church, made a nice reply to my question about why that would be, if he planned a temple marriage. He said he didn't realize it said that, since he rarely looks at his own profile. But he didn't seem to want to continue any conversation beyond that. However, he is closer to my age, and he has the 3E's, so I may pursue that later, after the 4th (remember, I host the big family BBQ - tons to do), when I have a minute to think again.

There have been a few other flirts and messages, but nothing else really interesting. Of course, if anything else develops, I'll post it here, I promise.

why is he looking...again?

David (yes, that David) has been looking at my profile recently. I don't know exactly when, but I'm guessing just in the last couple of days.

If he's "dating someone else", what is he doing looking at my profile?

If whoever she was didn't work out, and he's thinking of asking me out again, why not just send a message?

Instead, it's like he's spying on me.

NOTHING going on!

Well, as far as my "dating" life goes. Seriously, no messages, no flirts, no dates, nothing.

Again, this was my life before making any attempt to get myself out in the dating world. Please tell me why I bother? I really have enough going on without trying to make myself seem appealing to someone who will likely want someone younger, someone less opinionated, someone less set in her ways.

Yes, I did reply to Mr Persistent, and no, he hasn't answered me back. He must have found someone more appealing in the meantime. I answered him the same day, so it's not like I left him wondering for long.

As for the rest of my life, outside of failed dating attempts: I had a GREAT weekend with my friend, just hanging out and enjoying spending time with her. Not once did I wish I was with someone else, or that my life was different. Well, except, I did wish I didn't have to come to work Monday. I think I need a vacation....

persistent

So, remember the guy who sent me the Mama Mia themed message? I never did answer him back, but now he's sending me another message, actually asking me to have dinner with him.
He's a little older than I'd prefer, 58, but he is still younger than my dad. Not bad looking.

Maybe...